When it comes to guys, I definitely have a type. In the course of my life I’ve managed to date/ marry / be attracted to a series of men than can be mostly described as stocky, dark haired, possessing a larger than average vocabulary, some degree of musical ability, and active interest – if not participation in- politics. Bonus points if he refers to pens and pencils as “writing utensils”. Some of you already know who else that describes – my dad.
I certainly didn’t set out looking for dad when I started dating. In fact, I wasn’t even aware I was doing this until my first marriage was falling apart. Probably for that reason the first relationship I got into after my marriage was with someone who was the exact opposite. To put it mildly, it was a learning experience. And even after that train wreck, I can honestly say that I didn’t set out looking for dad types to date. I thought Pat (my husband) was something totally different. Turns out he’s just blond.
We’ve all heard the stereotypes about girls with “daddy issues”. Thankfully I had a good childhood – I grew up on a small farm, so not only my dad but his entire family was close by every day. Also, he and my mom have a great marriage. Looking for my dad- even though I never did it on purpose- led me to good guys. I’m now happily married to one and I couldn’t be happier. Thanks dad!