When it comes to hugs there are 2 distinct camps. \u00a0Some families are huggers and some aren’t. \u00a0I grew up in a non-hugging family. \u00a0There are a lot of people who find that hard to process.<\/p>\n
We’ve all seen the Facebook posts that claim we need “X” number og hugs a day to simply survive. \u00a0Well, I’m here to tell you that, like so much else of what you read on Facebook, that is complete and utter BS. \u00a0Thankfully, I’m not alone in wanting to get this message out. \u00a0Google “OK not to hug” and you will find page after page of parents who don’t think it’s OK to force Junior to hugs Grandma if he doesn’t want to and therapists who back them up. \u00a0My own current and former therapists agree that there are lots of ways to show affection and hugging isn’t a requirement for metal health or child development.<\/p>\n
I never doubted that my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. loved me as I was growing in spite of the fact that hugging just isn’t our thing. \u00a0My father came out of the church after my first wedding and shook my hand. \u00a0I wasn’t upset. \u00a0That was my dad being my dad. \u00a0The day I got my Bachelor’s degree he actually did hug me. \u00a0And it was, well, weird. Good, but weird nevertheless. \u00a0 My husband isn’t a hugger either. \u00a0We have a very good marriage, and we show either other our love in many different ways, but hugging isn’t at the top of the list for us.<\/p>\n
Now don’t get the wrong idea- I do enjoy hugging people I care about. \u00a0 I ask for a hug every time I see my niece. but she’s currently 5 years old. \u00a0I don’t see us hugging every time we get together when she’s 15. \u00a0I am going to see Bon Jovi next month with my good friend Lisa and I’m sure we will hug multiple times. \u00a0I may run into other friends there and I may very well hug them too. \u00a0 But I’m never going to be that person who feels the need to hug everyone (at least not sober).<\/p>\n
Simply put, hugs aren’t the beat-all, end-all, cure-all for everyone. \u00a0If you love hugs, you go be a hugger and hug away. \u00a0Just remember that some of the rest of us aren’t and that’s OK too.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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