On Sunday afternoon I watched a video posted by a well-known social media expert (name being withheld as I’ve not asked his permission to use it).\u00a0 I’ve never met him personally, but my husband has several times at various social media events he’s attended over the years.\u00a0 This gentleman really opened up in the short video and stated that he hates being alone with his thoughts and so he fills his time with work projects, sometimes to the point of taking on too much.<\/p>\n
This really took me aback for several reasons, but it also really got me thinking.<\/p>\n
I have a lot of flaws.\u00a0 I don’t take as good of care of myself as I should. I get frustrated easily.\u00a0 I am too obsessed with the mobile game Design Home (if you play, hit me up on Facebook!!).\u00a0 I sometimes speak without thinking.\u00a0 I could go on and on, but you get my point.<\/p>\n
Thankfully, one thing I have going for me is that I am OK with being alone.\u00a0 Part of that is practice I’m sure.\u00a0 My commute to work is about 40 minutes each way.\u00a0 My husband is self employed and works some weird hours.\u00a0 I have family and friends I go see in Minnesota- that’s about 2 hours of driving each way to get to most of them.\u00a0 I lived alone for close to four years when I was “in between husbands”.<\/p>\n
This certainly was not always the case.\u00a0 While I claimed to be fine with through most of my 20’s, I absolutely wasn’t.\u00a0 I’m sure that my at that time undiagnosed depression and anxiety disorders played a big part in that.\u00a0 But I can honestly say that I was several years into mental health treatment and into my 30’s before I was really OK with being alone.<\/p>\n
Now I embrace and quite frankly need time to myself.\u00a0 Thankfully my husband understands and supports me.\u00a0 I have gone on week long vacations by myself 3 times (And yes, I DID go to Duluth MN all three times- that is my happy place).\u00a0 I will take a drive to clear my head.\u00a0 \u00a0I will go sit in the bedroom and read (or play Home Design) when my husband’s home.\u00a0 \u00a0 Sometimes I’m thinking deep thoughts.\u00a0 Sometimes I’m thinking about Bon Jovi lyrics.\u00a0 Sometimes I’m trying to come up with blog posts.\u00a0 Sometimes I’m looking for the perfect rug for my room in Design Home Sometimes I’m not thinking a damn thing.<\/p>\n
Both of my long – suffering former shrinks gave me support and assistance with this journey.\u00a0 If you struggle with not wanting to be alone with your thoughts that may be an avenue for you to pursue as well.\u00a0 \u00a0I have always said that I think most folks would benefit from a stint (or two) in therapy.\u00a0 But if that’s not in the cards for you, just practice it.\u00a0 \u00a0Just sit alone and let whatever comes into your head come in. It’s not as scary as it sounds!\u00a0 Like anything else, you aren’t likely to be good at the first time you try.\u00a0 But do stick with it- the benefits to your mental health are worth it.\u00a0 I promise you that.\u00a0 Once you can feel at peace with yourself you’ll be better in your relationships, better in your time management, and simply more mentally healthy overall.\u00a0 And who doesn’t want that?<\/p>\n
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