Have you ever been out to eat or anywhere else in a public setting and saw a couple sitting silently, both using their phones?\u00a0 I’m sure you have, and you probably felt sorry for them and assumed their relationship was in trouble.\u00a0 \u00a0 That is certainly possible, but it’s also possible that their relationship is rock solid.<\/p>\n
My husband and I recently went to Ames (about an hour from our home) for a couple things.\u00a0 We didn’t speak for most of the car ride down or back.\u00a0 Sometimes we have super deep conversations in the car (which I talk about more here\u00a0https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/?p=4766<\/a> ) and I love it when that happens.\u00a0 But I also appreciate the times like today when we are comfortable around each other without filling every second with noise.<\/p>\n I am confident that one of the signs of a solid relationship is that you are comfortable in silence.\u00a0 This doesn’t just apply to marriages- it’s true for any close relationship.\u00a0 \u00a0I knew a woman who went on a week long Alaskan cruise with her sister.\u00a0 They spent hours together in their cabin reading.\u00a0 I’m sure they had plenty of conversations and laughs along the way, but they knew they didn’t have to be talking to each other every minute of every day.<\/p>\n I remember my folks holding hands and not saying anything for ages when we were going on road trips when I was a kid.\u00a0 At the time I didn’t think much of it, but now I know I’m damn lucky to have parents with as strong of a marriage as they have.<\/p>\n So don’t get too worried when you see that couple eating silently.\u00a0 They might not be fighting or on the verge of a breakup.\u00a0 They might have the most solid relationship in the building.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Have you ever been out to eat or anywhere else in a public setting and saw a couple sitting silently, both using their phones?\u00a0 I’m sure you have, and you probably felt sorry for them and assumed their relationship was in trouble.\u00a0 \u00a0 That is certainly possible, but it’s also possible that their relationship is rock solid. My husband and… Read more »<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":5376,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_wpas_customize_per_network":false},"categories":[24,25],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5375","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-advice","category-bright-shiny-objects"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/quiet-scaled.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5375","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5375"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5375\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/5376"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5375"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5375"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5375"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}