{"id":9,"date":"2015-08-23T22:56:00","date_gmt":"2015-08-24T03:56:00","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2015-11-11T20:38:14","modified_gmt":"2015-11-12T02:38:14","slug":"i-am-woman-hear-me-apologize","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/?p=9","title":{"rendered":"I am Woman, Hear Me …. Apologize?"},"content":{"rendered":"

So I’m sure you all know that Josh Duggar was in the news again this week. \u00a0Just in case you have been living under a rock, he was on the cheaters website Ashley Madison to the tune of $1000 and has admitted to cheating on his perpetually pregnant wife Anna. \u00a0And Anna has issued a statement apologizing for this!<\/span>
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\n<\/span>Back in May I explained why the Duggars are terrible examples of what Christianity truly us (19 Kids and No Longer Counting). \u00a0Clearly these things are all still true in spades, and even worse than I’d thought a few short months ago- especially for women.<\/span>
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\n<\/span>Anna Duggar’s statement expressed her sorrow- not because she married a horrible human being, but because her husband’s cheating is her fault!! \u00a0And no one, not even her own parents, have risen up to defend her. \u00a0 Maybe I’m asking a lot- I mean they DID sign off on her marrying a pedophile- but how do you just stand by and watch your own flesh and blood humiliate herself on national television over something that is 110% not her fault. <\/span>
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\n<\/span>Oh that’s right, it IS her fault. \u00a0After all, doesn’t the Bible say “Wives submit yourselves to your husbands”? \u00a0Clearly Anna must have failed this in some way. \u00a0But wait!<\/span>
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\n<\/span>Yes, it’s true that Ephesians 5:22 does say that. \u00a0BUT, 5:21 reads “Submit to one another out of reverence for the Lord” (no gender specified) And 5:33 reads “Each one of you must also love his wife as he loves himself”. \u00a0IF you read the entire chapter of Ephesians 5 you’ll learn that marriage is supposed to look like a mutual admiration society- not a dictatorship. \u00a0Looks like another case of taking one verse out of context- a common curse of Christians and non-Christians alike and, sadly, the basis of much of the Quiverfull dogma.<\/span>
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\n<\/span>Another observation- \u00a0this is a great example of why abstinence only sex education doesn’t work. \u00a0First Josh was caught- multiple times- molesting his own sisters. \u00a0Yet none of them received any kind of counselling- God forbid they learn anything about healthy sexuality! \u00a0Josh was sent off to a farm like a bad dog and his sisters were told to put it behind them and that was it (I’m betting they were told it was their fault to boot). <\/span>
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\n<\/span>So now we have several people with little hope of ever having a normal, enjoyable sex life. \u00a0Thank God most of them are girls – it doesn’t matter if they enjoy sex anyway. \u00a0But for poor Josh his issues just get worse. Having never gotten the help he needed as a teen he gets married a few short years later and tries to have a sexual relationship with only the knowledge that he needs to get Anna pregnant as many times as possible. \u00a0 One can only imagine how that wedding night went. \u00a0Poor Anna. Then Josh spends $1000 looking for “discreet companionship”. \u00a0And admits to a porn addiction- although that phrase has been removed from later versions of his statement. \u00a0Also clearly signs of a healthy, positive attitude to sex. \u00a0And one that he’s forced upon Anna, she’s not allowed to get any information or help anywhere else.<\/span>
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\n<\/span>I will be praying for Anna Duggar and her kids. \u00a0I hope that someday she is able to get out of the cult of Quiver and understand her true worth as a woman and a human being extends far beyond her uterus. \u00a0She deserves better. \u00a0It’s not just me saying that- her own Lord says the same thing. \u00a0I just hope someday she gets to hear it.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So I’m sure you all know that Josh Duggar was in the news again this week. \u00a0Just in case you have been living under a rock, he was on the cheaters website Ashley Madison to the tune of $1000 and has admitted to cheating on his perpetually pregnant wife Anna. \u00a0And Anna has issued a statement apologizing for this! Back… Read more »<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_wpas_customize_per_network":false},"categories":[20,27,22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-faith","category-its-all-love","category-things-that-make-you-go-huh"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/beckypalmer.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}