We get advice almost every day. \u00a0Some of it is great, some of it is so-so, and some is just plain awful. \u00a0And that really bad advice doesn’t always come from obvious places. \u00a0You can get awful, yet well-meaning advise from just about anyone. \u00a0 I’ve gotten terrible advise from family members, former bosses, and well-intentioned friends. \u00a0The really scary part is that all of these folks truly meant well!<\/p>\n
So, in my never-ending attempt to be helpful, I’m sharing the worst advise I’ve never gotten. \u00a0Please read and do the exact opposite:<\/p>\n
#1 Never go to bed angry. \u00a0This is far and away the worst relationship advice I can thick of. \u00a0When you are tired and angry (and probably hungry) do you make good decisions? \u00a0Are you thinking clearly? Of course not. \u00a0So why continue the death spiral any further? \u00a0Sleep on it. It’s amazing how much better things look in the light of day. \u00a0You may even realize whatever it was, isn’t even worth fighting over at all!<\/p>\n
#2 Follow your heart and the money will follow. \u00a0While I am all about following your heart in matters OF the heart, your brain needs to be front and center when choosing a job or career. \u00a0Sure, you should focus on what you’re good at and look for opportunities in those areas. \u00a0And certainly if you are being asked to disregard your own safety, ethics, or the law you should leave that situation immediately. \u00a0However, the fact of the matter is that we don’t all get to be astronauts when we grow up. \u00a0But, we do all have to pay our bills and eat, even if our job doesn’t make us feel all warm and fuzzy inside every single day.<\/p>\n
#3 \u00a0Avoid negative people. \u00a0Well, that would be awesome, wouldn’t it? \u00a0But since we don’t live or work in bubbles, it’s impossible to do.<\/p>\n
#4 Choose happiness. \u00a0Gee- why didn’t I think of that? \u00a0While there is a small amount of merit to this one, it’s a big slap in the face to anyone who suffers a mental illness such as anxiety or depression. \u00a0I have chosen to be open about my own struggles with these illnesses now, but that wasn’t always the case. \u00a0It is very hard to talk about metal illness, and telling someone suffering from to just get over it hurts. \u00a0A lot.<\/p>\n
#5 People never change. \u00a0This is just plain silly. \u00a0Everyone changes. \u00a0You aren’t the same person you were 10 years ago. \u00a0You aren’t the same person you were last week. \u00a0Certainly some changes are bigger than others, and some changes take significant time and effort to achieve. \u00a0But anyone can learn from their mistakes, no matter how large or small. \u00a0Anyone can decide to stop making the same mistakes in their relationships. \u00a0Anyone can decide to turn their life around. \u00a0And we should support those folks, not run them down.<\/p>\n
What awful advise have you been given? \u00a0OR, what awesome advise have you gotten that might have seemed awful at the time?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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