As young children we see the world in black and white. Either we are happy or we are sad. Hungry or full. Wet or dry. We have what we want, or we don’t. There are no shades of gray, no finer points, no degrees of anything. It’s all or nothing.
As we mature, we come to realize that there are frequently WAY more than 2 sides to a story. There are often nuances, extenuating circumstances, outside influences, and a myriad of other factors to take into consideration. And, most of the time most adults do just that face to face, even when discussing hot button topics like gun control or politics.
But for some reason, all of that goes out the window the second we log into social media. All of a sudden we become 3 year olds again. Everything is black and white and by God if you don’t agree with everything I say you are the most idiotic person who has ever walked on this Earth. Decades long friendships mean nothing. Family ties are meaningless. We take out our verbal napalm and casualties don’t bother us a bit. And yes, I admit I’m just as guilty of this as anyone else.
And even worse, chances are close to 100% that both you and the person who have just deemed your mortal enemy make good points. Points that, if you were talking to this person IN person you might be able to discuss like the rational adults you are.
Has going ballistic on anyone on Facebook ever actually changed a mind? Has a Twitter war ever solved anything? I submit that the answer is no. And to take it a step further, I submit that when you argue online we are both wrong. And yes, I’m including myself in this one too.
It’s only a matter of time before there another big scandal/ national tragedy/ presidential tweet that gets everyone in a tizzy. I am making a promise here to try to avoid social media wars. Will I be completely successful? Probably not. But I’m going to try. And I ask you to pledge the same thing. That way, we can ALL be right!