Category Archives: Advice

Am I qualified to give advice? No matter, sometimes I give it anyway!

Back Seat Santa

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Last year I wrote about a troubling trend I’ve noticed- the notion that Christmas is just for kids.  It still really bothers me that anyone could feel that way- please see here to recall why: http://beckypalmer.thecomputerguy.bz/christmas-is-for-who/ But today I’m going to put out an even more radical holiday thought- I invite you to reimagine Santa Claus. Before you come at me… Read more »

Just Do Something

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Lately there have been quite a few people in my extended family who have been struck with life threatening medical emergencies.  One was in a terrible car accident.  One fell off a ladder.  Another has a 5 month old daughter with cancer. I have other people in my sphere dealing with horrible family problems.  Whether the underlying issues are money,… Read more »

No Free Passes?

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A good friend is going through a difficult time right now dealing with a toxic family member.   I will not be sharing any identifying details, but there has been a life long pattern of narcissistic and downright awful behavior from this family member and there has been a recent chain of events that have really brought this behavior front and… Read more »

Mysteries of Womanhood

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No, I’m not referring to “mysteries” like why women want control of their own bodies or the sad, sad questions men who apparently skipped middle school science post on social media about the female menstrual cycle.  I’m not asking why women’s clothing gets destroyed the dryer but men’s clothing does not (although if you have the answer to that please… Read more »

It’s Not Perfect

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“Everything has to be perfect!” How often have we heard that?  How much stress has that statement caused?  And, most importantly, how often was the situation it was used in really that important? Sure, there are times when things need to be perfect, or darn close.  Scientific experiments.  Construction of nuclear reactors.  Space launches.  Administration of chemotherapy.   Yet, most of… Read more »

No Excuses

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Our local embarrassment, Congressman Steve King of Iowa’s 4th District, was at it again this week.  Apparently admitting he’s a white nationalist, being openly mysogynistic, and just being all over ignorant wasn’t enough.  Apparently being so generally repulsive that his own party has barred him from serving on any committees or positions of leadership wasn’t enough. Nope.  This past week,… Read more »

Relaxation Day

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Take it easy today folks- it’s National Relaxation Day! This holiday was created in the mid 1980s by a fourth grader who was wise beyond his years.  He understood then what many adults still don’t- all work and no play does indeed make Jack a dull boy. It’s way too easy to get wrapped up in all the things we… Read more »

Put the Camera Down

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A few weeks ago my niece was in her very first piano recital.  She did so good- proud aunty moment for sure!  My sister posted a couple pictures of the event online and noted that she did NOT record the performance because she wanted to experience it live, not through a screen.  Wise words that so many of us forget…. Read more »

Adopt a Cat Month

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June is Adopt a Cat month. This is the time of year when local animal shelters are inundated with new cats/ kittens.   Mating season starts in early spring and the gestational period for a cat is only two months long, so that first batch of kittens are here.   And in many cases, the parents of said kittens are there too,… Read more »