Before we get started, this post is about straight relationships. I don’t know if something similar exists in the LGBTQ+ community, but if it does I’m not qualified to speak to it. So apologies to my friends in that space and we will meet up again next week.
You have probably heard about the so-called Male Loneliness Epidemic.
In its purest form, it speaks to the disconnection most of us feel in the rise of social media, especially since COVID, that seems to have impacted men more than women. However, it’s been spun in some circles to something a lot more sinister. It becomes part of the whole male entitlement / “alpha male” / Andrew Tate crap that alt right boys have bought into. And yes, I call the people who have bought into this crap boys- actual emotionally mature men can see right through that garbage.
The centerpiece of this “movement” is the idea of “high value” and “low value” women. High value women are virgins, but willing to give it up to their man whenever, wherever. They are submissive, they have zero (or very low) career aspirations. They love housework. They always wear makeup- but not too much! They keep themselves thin. They believe they need to be in a relationship to be complete. Basically they want mommy figure who will also have sex with them. Or a sex robot that can cook.
Low value women are the opposite. They are independent, they have careers and their own money, they enjoy their sexuality, and they want their partner to actually BE a partner. They know their own worth and aren’t going to put up with being bossed around by a man baby. In other words, they are adults and while they may genuinely want to be in a relationship, they know that being alone is better than being with someone who doesn’t treat them well.
It’s not hard to see why thinking this way leads men to behave badly in relationships, women to reject them over and over again, and men to blame women for this. It also leads women to be suspicious of men and to just give up on dating entirely.
When I was going through my divorce people asked me if I hated marriage. I didn’t. I knew too many people in good marriages to give up on the institution. And I assure you, NONE of them thought about relationships or partners this way. It breaks my heart to see young people sucked into this vile and ignorant way of thinking. Everyone deserves better. I hope eventually everyone realizes it.