Advice – the good, the bad, and the ugly

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Tis the season for “year in review” and “new year, new me” blog posts and status updates.  Some are cute, some are poignant, some are downright annoying (fact- NO ONE cares about your workout routines or fad diet).   But, the end of the year does seem to make everyone a little introspective, including me.

Don’t worry- I’m not going to bust out another Year In Review post.  I’m pretty much an open book and if you wonder what I did and what I’m proud of in 2019 just look through what I’ve written this year.  OR ask me about my niece and nephew- I can talk about them forever!

Instead, I’m thinking about advice.  Specifically, advice that I’ve been given over the years.  While it was all well-meaning, some of it has turned out to have been great and some of it has turned out to have been awful.

Let’s start with the good.  The best advice I ever got came from my dad- no surprise there.  He told me when I was quite young “Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something just because you’re a girl”.  This was pretty powerful in the mid 80s when he said it and I still smile thinking about it now.  And I’ve shared it with my niece already.  She’s only 8 but it’s never too early!   He also gave me these nuggets- “The time you don’t think you can afford to go on vacation is when you need it the most”.  “Do the right thing every time”.  “God is always in control – even when it doesn’t look like it”.

I’ve gotten a lot of bad advice over the years too.  Probably the worst was from multiple sources before my first marriage was the classic “Never go to bed angry”.  I cannot tell you the number of miserable nights my ex and I had because we thought this was the best way to handle disagreements.   We really need to trash this one for good.  Other bad ideas that came my way?   “A baby will fix your marriage”. “Never own a car with over 100,000 miles on it”. “Just put it on a credit card and pay it off over time”.

So as we go into this week of nostalgia and new diets, what’s the best and worst advice you ever got?   Did you get any bad advice it took you a while to realize was bad like I did?  Let’s talk about it!

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